NEW HAVEN, Conn. (WTNH) — Hopefully just romance will be in the air on Friday for Valentine’s Day, and not snow.
News 8’s Kent Pierce sat down with expert sexologist Alice Holland to find out about “intelligent flirting.”
“Intelligent flirting is being the best you can be, feeling good about yourself and having a successful relationship,” said Alice.
Alice Holland knows about this. She is a human sexuality expert who is also director of student health services at Quinnipiac University. But how do you do some “intelligent flirting”?
The first tip is to try going on a quasi-dangerous date. Some examples of this type of date include rock climbing, riding a roller coaster or watching a scary movie. Each of these activities activate stress hormones in the body
“And when we do that, we also increase a neurotransmitter called Dopamine, and when we increase that, we increase attraction,” said Alice.
The second tip is to develop your conversational muscles, just like working out your biceps at the gym. Treat conversation like a tennis match with plenty of back and forth.
“If you did all the talking, you would seem boastful. On the flip side, if you asked all the questions, I would feel like I was being interrogated,” said Alice.
The third tip is the recipe for an approachable you.
“So a relaxed, open posture, good eye contact, and a smile is a recipe for an approachable you,” said Alice.
Now put out a positive vibe and relax. If you are having a tough time doing that, then just try deep breathing in and out for seven seconds each.
“It puts you in a different mindset, kind of calms you down,” said Alice.
And last, take the advice of Oscar Wilde about the importance of being earnest and being yourself.
“Be yourself, because everyone else is already taken and if we were all the same life would be boring,” said Alice.