(WTNH) – As if the planning, cooking, and spending aren’t stressful enough, the holidays also strain relationships between partners. Relationship experts Dr. Patty Ann Tublin and TC Brantley share their expert opinion on the arguments CT Style viewers experience with their partners this time of year.
Should the gift be a surprise? Or should we give each other a list.
“Have a conversation. Throughout the year if you see something (you like), say ‘Here you go, put this on your list,’” said Dr. Tublin.
How can we decide where to go for the holidays?
Sometimes it’s best to switch off on holidays. “You can’t have a happy relationship without the C-word – Compromise,” said Dr. Tublin
If compromising isn’t a possibility, stay home! “This should be a time of hope, not just ‘Are we going to your house or their house?’ It should be let’s stay in our house together,” said TC Brantley.
Following are 3 tips for avoiding money fights during the holidays.
- Make a LIST of people you and your partner have agreed to purchase gifts for this holiday season and stick to the list. Do not add names as you go along. If you didn’t put the substitute teacher on the original gift-giving list – and you just remembered them while in the store – do not buy a gift for them. If you really, really, really want to let this substitute teacher know you are thinking about them during the holidays, bake them a pie or give them a call and let them know you are thinking of them. People will appreciate the fact that you took time out of your hectic holiday schedule to think of them.
- SPEAK with your partner and AGREE on a budget before you even think about shopping for anyone on your list.
- AVOID IMPULSIVE PURCHASES. Just because something is on “sale” it doesn’t mean you have to buy it. If the sale item is over-budget for the person you would be buying this gift for – do not buy it. It doesn’t matter that it is on sale – walk away from it. The receiver of the gift will never know you passed on that great pair of earrings you thought had their name written all over them.
It doesn’t cost a dime to show people your love and affection for them. Try to remember “less is more” and time spent together creates memories that last a lifetime and leave a legacy!
For more information ,head to www.drpattyann.com or download TC Brantley’s Strong Marriage App