He Said She Said Part 2: How Men and Women Communicate Differently


NEW HAVEN, Conn. (WTNH)- Steve Rohr is back to share insight into how men and women communicate differently, and how to speak your partner’s language.

Women and men communicate differently. What isn’t so apparent is just how deeply ingrained our communication habits are ingrained in our brain. So, instead of trying to “change” the other person, Steve says to learn their language. Becoming a “male” or “female” speak translator could prevent your next fight.

Steve’s Communication Translation:

Men approach other men from the side or an angle. Women approach men from the front. This matters because men read a head-on approach as aggressive and confrontational. Women think a side approach is not being “upfront” or he’s trying to “hide something.”

He may not remember your anniversary, but that’s ok.  When a man is in love, visual imagery is stimulated, whereas memory activity gets going in a woman’s brain. So, he’ll remember you looked incredible when you first met, but not the actual date. Women tend to remember the date, time and a play-by-play of the entire evening.

Most of the time, by the time a man opens his mouth, he’s already processed information and made a decision. When women make decisions, they will usually process information out loud, exploring all possibilities (e.g. with girlfriends, her mom, hair stylist, yoga teacher, Uber driver, and partner/boyfriend/husband). This matter’s because if a man has already made his decision, then he is not looking for input. Women might think he is unresponsive to her suggestions. Men will think women can’t make up their minds or need guidance – a sign of weakness. They also don’t love the fact that their wife/girlfriend is sharing their private life with just about everyone she knows – and can’t figure out why she’s doing it.

When a woman is feeling down, a man automatically goes into FIX IT mode, when really all she wants is for him to listen. Men are like firefighters – when they see a fire, they want to hose it down. Guys should sit, actively listen, and make eye contact. Similarly, women need to take a step back as well. Often, he doesn’t talk about his problems, just settles into his man cave (or garage, or den) and tries to sort things out. A woman sees this as shutting her out. Instead, she should let him know she’s there for him, but respects his space. Above all, don’t keep asking him, “What’s wrong??” or “Talk to me!” When he’s ready, he’ll do it. But he doesn’t need the pressure of forcing his feelings – especially when he’s feeling vulnerable.

More Information:

Steve Rohr is a nationally recognized Communication Expert. He’s the Show Publicist for the Oscars – right here on ABC, a Communication Professor, and the author of the bestselling book: Scared Speechless: 9 Ways to Overcome Your Fears and Captivate Your Audience.

Learn more at www.RealSteveRohr.com



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